Sunday, May 14, 2017

Mother's Day and Disney Moms

As I get older, Mother’s Day always gets a little more emotional for me. I see less pictures of my friends with their own mothers, and more pictures of my friends being mothers- it still blows my mind.

Now that I’ve been married for over a year, I’m constantly bombarded by questions from well-meaning family, friends, and coworkers, of when I’m planning to become a parent myself. And the answer is, I just don’t know. Of course, I would love to have a little prince or princess to love unconditionally and take heat-warming pictures with. The truth is, I’m just not emotionally or financially ready to have kids.

Then again, I’m constantly fearful of being an “old mom.” I feel pressured, and like I’m running out of time. I wish I could stop time until I was ready.

In the meantime, I deal a lot with what’s called “mommyjacking.” I’ll say something innocent, like “I’m tired today,” and fellow moms, whether they be coworkers or friends, will smile knowingly and say, “Just wait until you have kids. You won’t have any time for rest!”

Like, wait, what? They hijacked my sentence! I know that! I wasn’t even referring to the exhaustion that comes with being a mother! “Mommyjacking” is when a mother tries to trump your issues by insisting that motherhood is just so, so demanding. Of course, I know this, and I feel for them, and appreciate all the moms out there and all the hard work they do…but I wish sometimes I could make an innocent statement without someone jumping down my throat.

Another example is when I try to talk about publishing a book, and someone else (usually a coworker), will pipe in with, “Just wait until you have a child! That’s the greatest accomplishment of all!” or “Well, you better write while you can- when you have kids, you’ll never have the time!”

Well, we’ll just see about that! If mothers I know can be wonderful parents and still find the time to go on European vacations and cruises and fancy dinners and what have you (while I’m childless and have never been to Europe), then I think I might be able to find the time to write every so often.

Don’t get me wrong though- I can’t wait to be a mother! Just not right now, and maybe when I’m not under so much pressure.  

Anyway, to quiet my fears and get back on topic, here are a few Disney mothers (and one mother-like figure) that inspire me the most:

1.     Sarabi, The Lion King

First, I love Sarabi and Mufasa as parents, even though we only see one scene with the two of them together, when Simba wakes them up early. This exchange pulls on my heart strings:

“Your son is awake.” – Sarabi

“Before sunrise he’s YOUR son.” – Mufasa

For real, my husband and I say this all the time about our dog- he likes to wake my husband up early for walks. I feel like we would say this when we have actual kids.

This exchange just paints the picture of the two of them as loving parents with a fun sense of humor. Sarabi is slightly strict with Simba when he’s a cub, allowing him to go to the water hole “as long as Zazu goes with you,” and is clearly a proud mother when Simba returns at the end, this time as a grown lion, come back to take his place as king. Sarabi had to remain strong and resist Scar after her mate’s death, and under the belief that her son was dead. I wish we had gotten to see more of her and Mufasa- she seems like a loving character who not only demands respect, but shows fierce loyalty to her tribe as well.

2.     Ella’s Mom (Cinderella 2015)

In the original 1950’s Cinderella, we didn’t see the mother at all, and we learn early on that her father dies as well, but not before marrying the wicked stepmother.

However, in the live action 2015 film, we get to learn more about Ella’s mother and their relationship. Ella’s mom (we don’t learn her name) is sweet and patient, and teaches Cinderella how to show kindness to all living things. For example, we see young Ella caring for all the animals in her garden, even the mice and the geese. Ella’s mom asks if Ella thinks they can understand her, and Ella says “don’t they, mother?” Her mom replies, “Oh yes, I believe that animals listen and speak to us if we only have the ear for it. That’s how we learn to look after them.”

She doesn’t mock Ella for talking to the animals even if it seems nonsensical- she then goes on to teach Ella about Fairy Godmothers. Ella asks incredulously, “And do you believe in them?” Ella’s mom replies enthusiastically, “I believe in everything!” Ella smiles and replies, “Then I believe in everything too!”

Ella’s mom teaches her daughter about belief, kindness, and even magic. She uses her last breaths to tell Ella “a great secret”- to have courage and be kind. She insists that “when there is kindness, there is goodness, and when there is goodness, there is magic.” This is something that Ella holds dear to her heart throughout her life, and it indeed sees her through all the trials and tribulations she endures with her stepmother. Eventually, kindness and hope win in the end, just as her mother promised. This movie taught me that kindness has power.

3.     Helen Parr, a.k.a Elastigirl (The Incredibles)

Helen is both a mom and a superhero- some would say that those two are one and the same. She has a big responsibility to protect her children without hindering their abilities. She struggles with this a bit at the beginning, when her son Dash gets into trouble at school for his super speed. He insists that she’s always telling them to be special, but she doesn’t really mean it. Helen sighs and replies “Everyone is special, Dash.” Dash grumbles, “Which is another way of saying no one is.”

When her husband, Mr. Incredible, gets into trouble, she goes to rescue him from the evil Syndrome, and her children, Violet and Dash, stow away for the adventure (Helen unwillingly lets them come after they narrowly escape a plane crash). She is stern with them, and tries to force Violet into using her powers suddenly after years of making her suppress them. She soon realizes her mistake, however, and apologizes to Violet for being “unfair.” However, she also teaches her a lesson in learning not to doubt herself- that Violet can do amazing things with her powers.

“Don’t worry. When the time comes, you’ll be ready,” she assures her daughter, tucking a strand of black hair behind her ears.

Violet and Dash both learn how to use their powers and protect their identities, and learn how to not deny and suppress their special abilities. Helen is realistic as a mother figure, even though she’s a superhero- she’s not the perfect parent, but she stands by her family…and they all end up saving the day in the end. 

4.     Nani, Lilo and Stitch

True, Nani is not a mother. She’s Lilo’s older sister who takes on the role of being a mother after their parents die. She clearly tries her best to care for Lilo; she constantly tries to prove herself worthy with the persistent social worker, she’s relentless when it comes to finding a job and keeping their family from being torn apart even more, and when she hears Lilo wishing for a friend, she brings her to the dog adoption agency- and Stitch comes into their lives!

I relate to Nani, both as an older sister myself, and a mother figure to others. Sometimes the sisters fight, but at the end, they always have each other’s backs. As Lilo reminds Nani after a bad fight, we’re sisters, “it’s our job.” She likes Nani better as a sister than as a mother, and in the end Nani does learn how to adopt that delicate balance between being a sibling and caring for Lilo as a mother would. 

5.     Andy’s Mom, Toy Story

She’s a single mom raising two kids, and Andy turns out to be a cool guy at the end of the third movie. He’s kind, cares for his family, and takes time to give his precious toys a good new home with the adorable Bonnie. We can only assume that this is due to Andy’s mom showing Andy how to be compassionate, and I don’t know about anyone else, but I teared up at the end right before Any went off to college and his mom started to get emotional over her son leaving the nest. 

Andy’s mom is a rare Disney character in the fact that she’s a single mother, yet she is such a positive role model. In the beginning, she supports Andy’s imagination and protects his toys (I love the way she refused to sell Woody to Al from Al’s Toy Barn, even after the guy offered $50 bucks for him). In the end, she makes sure Andy is all ready for his next adventure and helps him transition into adulthood, as any good mother would. As the toys would say, go Andy’s mom!


So there you have my list! Of course there are other, though not many, Disney moms out there that I adore, but these are my top five. I also love the mom from Inside Out, Kala from Tarzen, Mrs. Potts, the parents from Tangled- the list goes on. Disney mothers are so important, because they raised my favorite heroines and heroes whom I look up to all the time.

I couldn’t end this post without giving a shout out to my own mother, who I love dearly; my sister, who I will always protect even when my mom is not there; my sister in law, who has shown me that you can be a great mother at any age, and all of my friends who have become mothers (even if all I see are baby pics all day, every day). You ladies are all wonderful!

Hugs and fishes,


Arielle

Thursday, May 11, 2017

What's the Deal with Disney Youtubers?

Wouldn’t it be cool to make money just by being a full-time Disney fan?

That’s what I thought on a hot sunny Sunday, sitting in my South Florida apartment. I was in bed, hadn’t changed out of my pajamas yet, and on a whim started watching a Disney-themed YouTube channel called “TheTimTracker.” Tim and his wife Jenn are Orlando locals who go to the Disney parks a lot (as well as SeaWorld and Universal), and vlog about their day-to-day lives. They are charismatic, funny and charming, and I was instantly hooked. They have over 200,000 “subscribers” and film a video every day. Even the videos where they don’t go to the parks and just hang out at home were enjoyable! When I watched some more and found out that Jenn, the wife in the videos, basically made a living out of going to theme parks and editing their videos, I was in awe. She got to stay home all day and edit; when she wasn’t at home, she was out having fun!  And I wanted in on the game too.

On my next Disney vacation with my husband, I found myself wanting to do the things I had seen in their videos. I wanted to eat at the restaurants they recommended, I wanted to wear cool handmade Minnie ears like Jenn did, and I wanted to buy the Disney products I had seen in their home. Ever since I started watching their channel, I now eat at basically every restaurant (Disney or otherwise) that they praise, I buy Minnie ears from Etsy (which led me down a whole other path of Instagram and Etsy shops where people make homemade Disney items- everything from bows, to eats, to shirts, to cups and more), and I even buy the makeup and hair products Jenn uses.

This got me wondering- how much money do they make off Disney? Does Disney give them free stuff? Are they paid to advertise certain items and places in their videos? How many other Disney “YouTubers” are out there?

The first few money-related questions are uncertain. Most YouTubers make money from ads or donation links on their sites, but in some videos, Tim and Jenn mention that they were “invited” to places (for example, SeaWorld invited them out to try their new Food and Wine festival, supposedly for free). It totally worked- my husband and I recently went to that same festival and loved it, because we saw how much they enjoyed it and, well, we love food. They also mention saving their receipts from Disney meals (and, I suppose, receipts from their annual passes and other purchases). I’m not sure how it works, but I know that they make enough money for only one of them to have a “real-life” job (Tim, the husband, does work and makes a living outside of YouTube). And although they technically advertise different aspects of the Orlando area by visiting places, they specifically state that they don’t get everything for free. Plus, they’re so humble and down to earth, that none of their videos feels like an advertisement.

After some searching, I found that there are hundreds of Disney vloggers out there- people from single guys and girls (young and middle aged), families, couples, Florida-residents and non-Florida residents- a lot of people have a passion for Disney and show it through YouTube. The most popular videos include “haul” videos (where they show purchases from the parks), “best/worst lists” (their opinions on the best and worst rides, shows, hotels, and theme parks), “day in the life” videos (where they just film themselves enjoying a day at the park, or their park routine), “POV” videos (videos of ride-throughs), and “Q&A” videos (where they answer questions about the parks and themselves). There are tons more videos and content out there, but what fascinates me most are the so-called “Disney Influencers.”

These influencers have cropped up on Instagram in recent years, usually sipping a Starbucks and wearing custom Minnie ears in front of the purple wall in Tomorrowland, or the bubblegum wall in Epcot. They twirl around in their custom Disney tank tops and their custom Disney hand-painted Vans, and they make video montages with artsy shots of the castle. For the influencers, their videos tend to include a lot of “hauls” and “park makeup tutorials.” There are even some “park packing” videos out there and “park must dos.” Basically, they are living, breathing ads for Disney.

The realistic part of me scoffs at their photos and videos. How come they don’t show the long lines, or the complaining husbands, or the fact that their feet hurt and they must go to work the next day? They never seem to sweat in the 100-degree Florida heat either- their hair is always perfectly in place and tied back either with a pair of ears or a Disney character-themed bow. (Did I mention that most of these videos are run by girls, and/or couples)?

The jealous side of me, however, envies them. I want to be a cool Disney hipster sipping my violet lemonade and taking a photo shoot on the hub grass with my Starbucks too! However, writing is my thing, and I am incredibly un-photogenic. Nevertheless, that doesn’t stop my fascination and discovery of these perfect Disney beings and their addicting YouTube channels.

You’d think as someone with two published books about Disney, and the fact that I’m a past Cast Member, would put me in the Disney influencer category. To be completely truthful, however, I don’t make much money off my books, and my blog has a total of 0 followers and 0 comments. I do it for the love of the game and the love of the parks.

I’m not bashing these Disney stars, but I think I’ve been watching them long enough to tell the genuine ones from the “glamorous” ones. I love watching videos from TheTimTracker, but I can only stand so much of young girls twirling in front of purple walls (why do they twirl so much anyway?). I’m much more likely to buy a product or take advice from someone who seems real. And I have- I now have a growing collection of ears, a pair of my very own handmade shoes, and have a long subscription of Disney YouTubers that I currently watch. All you have to do is search, say, “wire mouse ears” on Instagram or Etsy, or “Disney Youtubers” on Google, and you’ll come up with lists and lists of names. Pick and choose what appeals to you most, and go from there.

If you’re like me, you’ll lose a whole Sunday fantasizing about quitting your job, moving to Orlando, and filming yourself going to Disney every day- and making millions.

I know not a lot of people “make it” on YouTube, and even the Trackers (as they call themselves) have said that it took years filming themselves before they got a steady stream of viewers, but I admire everyone that has the guts to put themselves out there and try to make their hobby into a real dream come true. If I could look pretty, not sweat in a park, had the money to buy all the custom Disney wardrobe items in the world, and had a husband who was willing to show himself on camera, hell- I’d do the same thing.

Being a Social Media “Influencer” is the new hottest trend, especially among my friends. There are the #healthyeating influencers, the #fashion influencers, the #beauty influencers, the #fitness influencers…I could go on and on. And as much as I would love to get free products and money from advertising as well- kale makes me sick, I can’t draw a “winged” eye to save my life, and one of my favorite dresses is from Wal-Mart.

For now, I think I’ll stick to writing.


Here are a few of my favorite Disney YouTube channels if you want to check them out:


Any recommendations? 

Hugs and Fishes,

Arielle 

Monday, January 2, 2017

Festival of the Lion King Fail!

Let me preface this by saying that FOLK (as it's known to the cool kids) is my favorite show in Walt Disney World. I never get disappointed when I see it, and I still get chills as the music dims and the first chimes of "Circle of Life" start playing. It used to be one of my favorite pastimes during my time working at DAK, and I often went with friends if I happened to end my shift early.

During the last weekend of Food and Wine, my husband and I popped into Animal Kingdom at dusk to check out the new nighttime offerings. The night was full of fails, but as always at Disney, it still ended up being a fun, beautiful night.

We realized a showing of FOLK started at 5:30, and it was currently 5:25. We booked it over to Africa and made it through the queue just in time. To our surprise, we were escorted to the front of the Warthog section and the VIP area- second row! We got excellent seats, and settled in for a great show.



I eagerly sat through the tumble monkeys and the fire twirler, waiting for my favorite part of the show. The "Can You Feel the Love Tonight" section is incredible, with aerialists flying high above the audience to the tunes of the famous love song. The dancers, dressed as birds, never cease to amaze me. Usually, the male is dressed in red feathers, and the female in blue.

Except, the female in blue never showed up. The male was left alone to dance (which was a bit silly, as the sequence is designed to be done with a partner), and I overheard a fellow audience member ask "aren't there supposed to be two of them?" I understand things happen, and it was still a good show, but I was definitely disappointed that my favorite scene never happened. Luckily, I know I can always see this show again, but I'm sure it must have sucked for many guests who may never get another chance at watching.

As we exited the theater, I overheard the same audience member berate a bemused cast member, peppering him with questions as to why the blue acrobat never appeared. I didn't stay to hear the answer- we were intent on heading to our next destination, Kilimanjaro Safaris.

I was really excited to ride the safaris at night for the first time. However, my excitement quickly disappeared as we approached the ride and saw that the wait time was 85 minutes. I was unable to get a FastPass since we began our day at Epcot, and by the time I was able to select additional FastPasses, the safaris were unavailable. You can only select FastPasses for one park at a time.

The friendly cast member at the front of the safari line advised us to check out the tree show and come back. Tree of Life Awakens, a new projection show on the Tree of Life, begins at sunset and runs about every ten minutes, with a new mini-show every time. We made our way back to the front of the park, stopping off at Creature Comforts on the way (aka "Starbucks"). As we stood in front of the Tree of Life with a huge crowd, we noticed bright lights shining on the tree and a projection crew setting up a stage right in front of the tree. We listened to a cast member nearby, and heard the words I was dreading:

"No show tonight folks- holiday taping is going on."

"Who's performing?" I asked, noticing the piano and the microphone.

"JoJo," he responded. A lot of guests had no idea who she was, but my husband was a fan.

It turned out she was performing for a new Thanksgiving Disney Special, thus, all Tree of Life projection shows were cancelled for the evening. The wait times for the safaris were still over 80 minutes, so we decided to wait and watch JoJo. We eventually ended up being picked to be in the audience for her performance, but that's another post!

All in all, it wasn't the perfect night- no safaris, no projection show, and missing portions of Festival of the Lion King. Luckily, we still had a fun night and were rewarded with a beautiful sunset:


Anyone else have strange experience during Festival of the Lion King?

Hugs and fishes,
-Arielle